Is a Mentor Essential for Personal Development?
The Webster Dictionary defines a mentor as: someone who teaches or gives help and advice to a less experienced and often younger person. What this suggests is, for instance, that teachers or lecturers are not necessarily mentors, that the mentor is not automatically older, and may be younger than the mentoring recipient but most importantly, that lack of experience in the given field is mandatory for a mentoring relationship to come about . So what is actually involved in the mentoring process?
Six Facts About Mentoring
1. Is mentoring essential for developing one’s talents fully?
Indeed it is. Throughout the ages, the most efficient model for passing on in-depth expertise between generations has been the mentoring model whereby an expert passes on his knowledge to his inexperienced, younger protege. A father-son, or parenting relationship of dominance and submissiveness then follows for some years until the protege has absorbed so much knowledge from the master that he/she operates at the same level as the master.
2. Must the relationship be restricted to the mentor’s field of expertise?
Whilst mentorship involves the passing down of many years’ accumulated knowledge and expertise in a given field, it may just involve instruction in one aspect, such as problem-solving, which can be applied in many fields of activity, or as a general life skill. An example is the post-school teaching of basic principles of philosophy, in order to develop good reasoning abilities which can be applied in almost any situation. Think of Socrates and Pluto.
3. Is life-long mentoring advantageous?
The relationship between the mentor and his subject is by its nature and definition a long one that typically spans more than 3 years. And so, the fact that it is such a close one, may lead to the development of strong emotional ties. These ties are important as they heighten learning. However, were the relationship to become fossilized as it were, at the original level of dominance/submission, then the entire objective of passing down expanded knowledge to the next generation would be lost. By expanded knowledge is meant that at some time during the mentorship, the mentee infuses the knowledge he receives with his own unique talents, thus breathing new life into it. At this stage a tension develops as the protege starts to strain at the bonds tying him to his mentor as well as the need to conform to the former’s way of doing things. If a life-long friendship comes out of this, then it is one between equals who have enriched their field, each with unique interpretations of it.
4. Must there be a positive emotional connection between your mentor and you?
Many studies have shown that a deep emotional connection of mutual affection and respect enhances the success of the mentoring project. This has even been proved by the neurophysiological finding of mimicry nerves that have the student unconsciously using gestures and/ or poses of an admired superior. Thus feel-good emotions between mentor and mentee easily lead to hard-wiring of lessons learned.
5. Do feelings of antagonism towards your mentor impede the relationship?
As was mentioned above, an important finding is that antagonism towards your mentor is a by-product of a successful mentorship, especially towards its end. This phase obviously requires insight and maturity from both parties. It is deemed largely necessary in that by this stage the mentee is transforming to become a potential mentor in his own right. And that mastery is at hand.
6. Does mentoring always mean a one-on-one interaction?
In this digital age, mentoring can be done without the human touch via books, especially e-books, e-courses and webinars. These can be highly effective, given mentee commitment, as well as in reaching a larger number of mentees. That said, the person-to-person mentoring environment has proven to be the best for successful outcomes.
How to get a mentor
The majority of the larger multinational companies have mentorship programs that run in-house. Former teachers, professors, senior colleagues, even friends or third party contacts can make wonderful mentors if properly selected. For the individual, there are also many online sites on connecting with a mentor. The majority of these online opportunities are mentor-driven, but the more fulfilling ones are the mentee-driven sites in terms of finding the perfect fit for the emotional comfort and multidimensional growth of the potential mentee.
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At an elemental level, starvation is the ultimate way to lose weight and is in many ways the opposite extreme to excess weight-gain through overeating. Few of us choose to starve - the situation is usually forced on us or we have a psychological disorder such as bulimia. The global problem is now overwhelmingly that of obesity following overeating, especially of processed foods that are high in fats and cholesterol. And the solution has been the explosive growth of the weight loss industry, which has come out with a plethora of ‘slimming diets’. But what about the only proven way, what about fasting – which is a type of controlled starvation – as a way to weight loss control?
Fasting has been shrouded in mystical terms but has been shown in many cultures, religions and down many aeons, to be a way of connecting the physical, mental and spiritual components of our being in a direction of greater health and resilience. In the modern, scientific age, that which is difficult to quantify or requires an element of belief in things unseen, tends to be discarded or criticised. But increasingly, definite benefits are attributable by practitioners of fasting: enhanced immune-competence, longevity, general physical and mental health, as proven by measurements of standard markers for these. That and weight-loss too.
This does not mean that fasting is for everyone. First, as a general rule, all who are about to embark on a fast should visit their doctor and proceed according to his/her advice. In general, the following people are advised against fasting:
Who Should Not Fast
Types of Fasts
There are 3 types:
1. Absolute fasts: where no food or water are consumed
2. Fluid fasts: where only water or other fluids are consumed
3. Daniel fasts: when only fruit and vegetables are consumed, and meat is avoided
What Happens to You During a Fast
The benefits of fasting actually kick in on about the third day and initially affect the body before the mind and spirit can be freed to reap their own benefits.
· Fasting Detoxifies the Body: In a very selective way, the 3rd day of a fast ushers in a process of ‘burning the rubbish’, which is when autolysis or self- destruction begins. And at the top of the list for internal destruction are dead, diseased, sick, or abnormal cells. For the remaining cells a process whereby cell memory craving is erased. This means that food and other addictions can be eliminated and new constructive habits begun. This is only true if fasting becomes a regular, say weekly or monthly habit. A shedding of excess mass follows naturally.
· Fasting Strengthens the Spirit: And as the targeted cells are being autolysed, the spiritual benefits begin to kick in, such as peace, focus and proximity to the Infinite. These benefits are especially strong as we meditate, pray and contemplate the fact that we are spirits undergoing a physical experience during the fast and thereafter.
· Fasting Clears the Mind: Cognitive clarity follows, things are put in their proper perspective, and proper prioritisation follows.
· Fasting Rests the Digestive System: Fluid and absolute fasts have been shown to rest the digestive tract in that what is imbibed is absorbed directly into the bloodstream without requiring the ‘assistance’ of digestive secretions from the stomach, pancreas, gallbladder, liver, and small bowel. When this happens, weight-loss and its control is an almost by-the-way thing. A by-product.
The human body seems to have been engineered to require periods of rest in order to maintain predictably high levels of performance. We don’t question resting after work, or after strenuous physical activity or exercise, but most of us mindlessly disallow our digestive system any time of rest except briefly when we sleep. In the modern context, overeating means you are in touch and contemporary. Millions are being spent daily urging people to eat chocolate, fried chicken, tacos, chips, hamburgers, fries, steaks and other foods, not to mention numerous drinks which do us no good: urgings which are being faithfully followed by the majority. Today the message is clear, it is that we have to engage the synergies of our totality if we want the best mental, physical and spiritual health. These synergies are most effectively stimulated by regular fasting as a way of life.
From fearful trip the victor ship comes in with object won;
Exult, O shores, and ring, O bells!
But I with mournful tread
Walk the deck my Captain lies,
Fallen cold and dead.
Our captain, Nelson Mandela does not yet lie dead, not as Walt Whitman meant in his poem, because that could take a few centuries. Yet Madiba the human, has finally departed - as we all must - leaving behind an international family of heirs to the world he helped to shape in such an exceptional way. In South Africa, we have become largely compatriots compared to the combatants we were when he took up the captaincy. His hand on the rudder almost to the end, he made his passing more a process than the final incident in his life, more a fading away than the abrupt cessation of organ functions. The announcement in the middle of his presidency that he would not seek a second term implied a declaration that he had achieved his life’s work, and had found a way to ensure its longevity. As we all know, his life’s work was simply to assert his humanity in the meeting places of humans. He it was, who showed that there was more power in forgiveness than in vengeance. He it was who also demonstrated that mutual rejection of one due to his skin colour could be abandoned with safety. Most significantly, he showed that interactions as fellow humans could be secure and respectful outside of our traditional fortresses.
Gradually fading, he finally separated from his mortal, arthritic body just the way he had lived in retirement. This was because before all of us did, he recognised - so unlike many peers - that if his life’s work were to be a lesson and an encouragement there had to be a dislocation between ego and principled leadership. And resolutely he acted on bringing about this dislocation. The result was a unique crystallisation of the true ingredients of leadership.
By uncoupling himself from the everlasting human truths he mirrored, he was able to rise in stature, his life’s story becoming a guiding light in all parts of the globe.
He often took guidance and comfort in prison from the words of another cherished poem:
It matters not how strait the gate, / How charged with punishment the scroll, / I am the master of my fate, / I am the captain of my soul. (From the poem “Invictus” by W.E. Henley)
All this might easily not have happened: by his own words, and for decades, his strongest yearning was for the status and relatively simple responsibilities of being a father and husband. He spoke and wrote of his hunger for the comforting sameness of coming home at the end of the day and waking up the next morning beside his wife. But events outside his control combined, not only to wrench him from such domesticity, but also to extend his definition of family to include those he had before considered enemies. His moment of Epiphany became, not the stunning murder of Chris Hani, but what followed.
In the two days following the shooting, the whole country was jolted out of its rut; with all fearfully breathing a uniquely explosive atmosphere the tiniest spark could ignite. Behind walls, and in darkness, all in the land were engaged in preparing for war against neighbours, acquaintances and work-mates. As we all waited with foreboding for the cataclysm, it was clear that no national ramparts existed against civil war. We now know that feverish deliberations were occurring because time was of the essence in this leaderless vacuum. Mandela’s appreciation that the rulers of the land were as dazed as their divided populace led him to speak words that had never before been spoken by all the previous leaders in the entire history of this land. (Lest we forget, his official status then was leader of a negotiating team.)
The words he spoke on the third day, opened with the unprecedented, inclusive: “My fellow South Africans...” What followed were words of peace, urging restraint and self-control. And as a countrywide sigh of relief followed, we put away our weapons. Thus was his future leadership course set. It was a course he would not and did not deviate from, even as those detractors, with some justification, criticised the logic of reconciliation when punishment for past wrongs made more sense.
His presidency ushered in a time of national euphoria now more poignant because it is nostalgic. Who can forget the accompanying sense of individual and collective discovery of nationhood, that were part of the Mandela presidency, and which linger, however attenuated? First triumphantly expressed at the times of the soccer African Cup of Nations and (more eloquently) the Rugby World Cup victories, they were again demonstrated by the successful Soccer World Cup tournament we hosted. But the era of reconciliation and its obverse promise of punishment for the unrepentant were not universally accepted and are not, to this day.
Firstly the previously downtrodden who, for over three hundred years had dreamed of just such freedom, were and still are feeling a growing and unexpected sense of betrayal. The fact was that many lives remained and are the same due to the country’s socioeconomic structure being largely unchanged by the miracle of democracy. Above all, Mandela the messianic appeared often to be more concerned with pandering to whites’ sensitivities – ironically, many of whom left the country at the beginning of his presidency. There was also a sense of growing disbelief as some in his own ranks surprisingly began to plunder the national purse. Even so, the announcement that he would be gone as national leader after only one term distressed many, who feared not only the unknown future, but also losing the ‘feel good’ that was part of those times.
Nevertheless, his stature remained or even grew thereafter. Through the Nobel Peace Prize -made twice as valuable because he agreed to share it - and numerous other accolades, he was held up as an eminent citizen of our planet. He became an elder statesman to the world, giving wise counsel on problems affecting distant lands. His philanthropic activities, one of which was the children’s fund named after him, flourished. And above all, the virtues of forgiveness, discipline, toughness and reconciliation gained international acceptance, and became identified with him. This spiritual legacy is undiminished, has indeed been ascendant during his ex-presidency, even when he had all but physically withdrawn from our everyday lives. That is his greatest gift, and he has demonstrably left not only for South Africa but the whole world a better place for having chosen to lead as he did.
Now, he has finally joined his many departed comrades from the early days: his dear friend and mentor Walter Sisulu, his ‘beloved sister’, who was ‘more than a friend and comrade’, Albertinah Ntsiki Sisulu and many others - all of whom had collaborated with unity and discipline. His spirit will remain with us, forever a point of reference, and a beacon for democracy in coming centuries.
Our solemn reciprocation must therefore be to reset the national compass, steering the ship away from the rocks of inequality, corruption, mediocrity and poverty. In fact, even as our Captain lies cold, we must rekindle what we had when he still led us. That is how we can ensure that the Father of our Nation continues to live into coming millennia.
THINKING ABOUT GOING INTO BUSINESS FOR YOURSELF?
Does joining a well-established family fast-food chain franchise appeal to you? If you are also a people person, then Burger King® may be the home you are looking for.
It operates over 12 000 successful franchises in the US alone. This company also has successful stores in 74 countries around the world-and is establishing more as you read this. The basis for their success is based on two strong pillars: training and support.
The training is initially over 3 months but continues unabated thereafter. It is intensive and mainly in-restaurant, followed by ongoing support from the designated Director of Franchise Performance. Other areas of training and support include Sales, Profit and Operations coaching, Real Estate management and supply chain management.This attention to detail with each and every franchisee has seen Burger King® (BK) become a publicly listed company with a robust dividend-paying capability. Established in 1954, its franchise division was started seven years later. That is the true meaning of track-record.
Here’s what BK looks for in their prospective franchisees:·
BK Pros & Cons
Becoming part of the BK Franchise family puts you on a well- travelled path to financial success and independence. Their ongoing support program i san industry bench-mark, with numerous testimonials of satisfaction. So, on the one hand your hard work coupled with their franchise model make BK Franchise a logical choice if you meet all the criteria.
On the other hand, let’s face it, the hours are long and are away from home. This may be negative for healthy family relationships in specific instances. Also, rigidly-set working times may repel those hankering after freedom from the nine to five grind. Rigid work times are a move away from the current trend towards flexible – and generally more productive– individualized working hours.
Whilst this franchise has a strong track-record for success, the financial entry barriers also make it inaccessible to many. Considering also the fact that there is a risk of failure (for BK, admittedly a small one), it is worthwhile to cast the net more widely for less risky but equally profitable businesses.
AND which result in enhanced time spent with family ( part of your due diligence)… Such as starting a well-selected home business.
Here’s to your success.
© 2013. Thabo Seseane
Dunkin’ Donuts Franchise: it’s Pros & Cons Since the year 2010, franchising has come to constitute a full 50% of the US retail economy. As the saying goes, the business of America is business. Business is not necessarily a free-market practice though, for instance even communists engage in commercial/industrial activity. But the US model of owner-run franchises is quintessential free-market activity.
There are many critics of the free market economy, but in its essence this is an economic order that is based on stewardship and nurturing of one’s resources. And on this backbone a world-wide trend towards small-business/ home business is in motion.
Don’t mistake me though, Mom & Pop’s stores still exist, it’s just that there is movement away from these to franchising and/or home business establishment.
In its execution franchising promotes the coming to fruition of human potential and not only of the franchisee but also further downstream. A frame of mind of giving ‘something back’ to the local community is, as an example, strongly emphasized.
The franchise way has proven to be a resilient business methodology because it imposes duties and obligations on both parties to the franchise agreement: franchisor and franchisee, namely:
Your Franchisee Duties & Obligations
· Becoming a family-member of a proven franchisor’s business model
· Maintaining the quality of the franchisor’s brand
· Ensuring ethical business practices
· Keeping in confidence the technical and proprietary information of the franchisor
· Paying on time the royalties most franchisors demand as part of the agreement
· Keeping to the letter and spirit of the Franchise Agreement
Franchisor Duties & Obligations
· Providing guidance, training and mentoring that ensure the success of the franchisor’s business
· Supply of or facilitating access to equipment and raw materials
· Globally marketing the brand
· Defining and keeping to the geographical demarcations of franchisors
How does it measure in terms of the obligations required?
What they need from a potential franchisee is:
1. Food service /retail experience
2. Passion for the brand
3. Engagement with the local community – e.g. $467,884 recently donated to Boston Marathon Bombing victims fund
4. Team leadership
5. Net worth per applicant of $500K and $250K liquid assets
For those who meet these requirements, this is a franchise with a low failure rate and therefore, profitable to be in. (100 million people in the U.S. alone drink coffee every day.) However, also based on these requirements, a Dunkin’ Donuts franchise is not for everyone who needs to start a business.
The hours are long and there is a strong need to be hands-on. As their ad goes: It’s a fast- paced job.
The franchising route has been called a trap by those who have entered it with a less-than-full understanding of the time and other demands it makes.
So as you dunk your donut and sip your coffee, do contemplate a broader scenario of business opportunities - many of them home-based - before you commit.
Till next time.
©2013 Thabo Seseane. All rights reserved.
Most entrepreneurs run small businesses, often home-based. To succeed, these require a continuous infusion of energy as well as the physical presence of the owner. However, a time comes during our endeavours when we feel we have paid our dues, but the pay-off is still absent.
We feel a half-submerged hankering, which is ever-present for the business to run successfully without needing our physical presence to do so, not to mention a time when we can enjoy its fruits.
We search for solutions but mainly come up empty-handed.
Remember Robert Kiosaky’s CashFlow Quadrant? He has some detractors but I’m not one of them. I’ve got the diagram below just to jog your memory:
Remember how in order to be financially secure you have to move your activities to the right side of the quadrant?
The first step is to be self-employed / entrepreneurial. For the self-employed I believe heaven is having a foot planted in each of the S and B quadrants – preferably in different sectors of the economy. This is what is meant by diversification, especially since easy access to quadrant I follows.
S quadrant activities allow full entrepreneurial individualism to flourish, whereas B quadrant activities grant true financial freedom, opening the I the quadrant and giving your whole being the space to gain fruition.
We know that this desirable situation is only made possible by the presence and power of the internet.
But we also know how fraught with danger, and how pervasively con artists, scamsters and crooks ply their trade on the internet. (I’m sad to say how many times and ways they have had me as victim. But must add that the certainty that there are more legitimate activities and businesses being conducted online than otherwise, has buoyed my search for a way out of this dilemma.) And that search recently ended.
I know it is ended.
I know because my subsequent activities have borne similar results every time.
Because similar seeds I planted have repeatedly germinated into expected seedlings. And those have borne fruit expected of those seeds.
As a solo entrepreneur, here’s an opportunity to explore, which answers our common dilemma.
Also please contact me by email or Skype if you have whatever input into the opportunity’s content and your interaction with it.
Till next time.
“It’s good food and not fine words that keeps me alive.” Molier
There are times when words need to be uttered that may spell salvation from the bad effects of ‘good food’ in our bodies. The world-wide explosion in the consumption of dietary vitamin and trace element supplements is one such time.
Let’s consider this question, Does the body of a well-nourished person need dietary supplementation? You decide: The body is an incredible instance of self-regulating, self-healing biological engineering. In terms of absorbing what is good for it through the bowel, it is generally able to take in enough of what it needs whilst disposing excess amounts as waste. The role of medications generally constitute crude, destabilizing interventions into this honestly amazing scenario. They function mainly to jog the body into healing itself. But when steeply excessive amounts are ingested, absorption is notched higher, leading to toxicity. We are aware that with respect to the body’s metabolism, it is like comparing the levels of operation of data-capturing to the apices of systems engineering. In common with all complex living matter, the body operates on certain foundation processes, a finely-tuned machine – and within often rigid parameters defining the boundaries of normality.
The biochemical parameters of operation of the body are, for many organs, particularly rigorous, with multiple intricate and interdependent series of processes working to bring about the end-result of ‘good health’ or ‘wellness’.
Unwellness, or dis-ease comes into existence when either, one or more of these biochemical processes or their interactions have either become abnormal, or their individual parameters have been transgressed. Again, all these have been designed to operate on a basic foundation containing other normal parameters such as, amongst others, the body’s vitamin and trace element content. Thus, if the body’s content of vitamins and trace elements is low or high, ill-health results.
In our times there is a preoccupation with supplementing vitamins and trace elements, based on the assumption that their levels, left on their own, tend to become lower than normal. This is assumed most commonly by the world-wide middle class, and has resulted in the highly lucrative vitamin supplement industry. For the middle classes worldwide, the notion that there is a need for vitamin and trace element supplementation is potentially dangerous social herding.
Whilst the tail-end of twentieth century agricultural production brought a global glut in food supply overall, the truth is, our health-view has remained fixated on a past era that focussed on correcting under-nutrition. We seem to have missed the point at which the pendulum swung into the opposite extreme, especially in developed parts of the world, where we find it now.
Because people on these supplements generally enjoy a balanced diet, faddish vitamin and trace element supplementation is unnecessary, wasteful and in and of itself, a cause of ill-health.
This dictates TWO lifestyle changes:
· 1. Desisting from the vitamin and trace element fad
· 2. Mentioning the fact that you are on vitamin and trace element supplementation to your doctor so
he/she can factor this into the current diagnostic process.
Below is a table showing the normal values/parameters of major vitamins & trace elements required for normal body function, as well as some known effects of excess ingestion:
EFFECTS OF EXCESS INTAKE
20-50 micro Gm/dL
Dry rough skin, cracked lips, headache, joint pains
(>2mg per day is excessive)
Balance & sensation disturbances - permanent
8.5- 10.5 mg/dL
Thirst, rash, loss of weight, kidney stones & other kidney damage, renal failure.
Intake of 2 mg/day required
Sepsis & bowel disease in infants
Normal activity tested using clotting tests
Anemia, bowel disturbance
Blood cell damage, brain damage , kidney failure, blood in urine, repeated miscarriage.
Part of Vit B12 formation.
Heart disease – often fatal.
Loss of hair & nails. Nervous disorders.
With the prevalence of ‘health’ and dietary supplementation currently in vogue, this article is a heads-up to the danger of finding ourselves inadvertently at the opposite end of the spectrum, nutritionally speaking, to where we think we are.
This is important because of the potentially serious – even life-threatening – results of excessive vitamin and trace-element ingestion.
©Thabo Seseane. All rights reserved.2013
As our technology and numbers steadily grew over time, man's global ecological footprint has always been the one variable with the power to affect significant parts of our planet's functioning. At the end of the previous century we became conscious of the ozone layer depletion - and that it posed a threat to our very existence. This was a direct result of our growing ecological carbon footprint. With the growth in population, however, this new ecological paradigm led to the environmental green movement, which dictates more and more of our urgent and focused attention - and action, on preserving the integrity of our ecology. The effects of environmental degradation are closely connected to the byproducts of modern existence, however these byproducts are the consequence of economic and job 'growth'. So at a certain inflection point decisions are/have been made regarding the common good - a word fraught with subjective interpretation. Moreover, a word which has in the past been used to designate the better interests of those with productive power in the economy, with the result that long-term best interests have become subservient to short-term economic gain. Hence the love/hate relationship that has evolved between those advocating a new ecological paradigm shift based on long-term survival of our planet versus those who support uninterrupted economic growth at almost any cost. See http://tinyurl.com/aqaz9dt © Thabo Seseane. 2013
Take Charge of Stress and Abdominal Obesity
Stress is a well known cause of adrenaline/epinephrine production. It prepares (in an instant) the body to fight or flee, all in the cause of self-preservation.
Adrenaline or epinephrine is a hormone and a neuro-transmitter with many functions in the body. It helps to regulate blood pressure, heart-rate, the patency of air passages, and metabolic responses, and is a crucial component of the fight-or-flight response.
This response results in the production of other hormones in a cascade that results in an increase in blood glucose. Glucose is a primary source of energy for the brain, and hence its availability influences mental and psychological processes. Low glucose affects many brain processes including decision-making as well as self-control.
During a stress response, the hypothalamus part of the brain secretes hormones, one of which is corticotrophin-releasing hormone (CRH). CRH stimulates the brain’s pituitary gland which ultimately results in cortisol /glucocorticoid production , another stress hormone. Cortisol is the dominant hormone in situations of chronic stress, and its effects are more permanent than those of adrenaline.
Effects of Cortisol
Are exerted all over the body:
=> INCREASES IN CORTISOL
=>LOSS OF MUSCLE BULK
=> INCREASED ABDOMINAL FAT
Abdominal fat has been found to be especially hormonally active . It has a direct relationship with Diabetes.Central obesity from increased abdominal fat deposition predisposes individuals for insulin resistance. The fat secretes a group of hormones called adipokines that lead to the body
producing resistin, which impairs glucose metabolism. This is the leading cause of Type 2 (Acquired ) Diabetes.
Is therefore vitally important for all of the reasons above and others, to control the amount of abdominal fat we have.
Controlling the Amount of our Abdominal FatBaseline Measurements
Baseline self measurements are easy to do at home. We can measure our blood pressure and blood glucose with portable machines. ( Note this advice does not replace having regular and on demand medical check-ups by qualified practitioners, it is in addition to these check-ups). The other self or assisted measurements we can do are:
©Thabo Seseane. All rights reserved.2013
What is Stress
Whilst many people have a good day sometimes, everybody is familiar with the sensation of stress. Being stressed is almost so synonymous with modern living, we take it as a normal part of life. This needn’t be so because excess stress is always an undesirable, and almost always avoidable consequence of modern living.
The Four Stress Zones of Life
There are only 4 main areas and these are dealt with from another perspective here.
To recapitulate, they are:
Manifetastions of the Stress Zones
The Causes and Effects of Stress
With all the advances in modern medicine, most of the ailments that have plagued mankind are still with us, only now they come accompanying stress.
The immediate feeling of mental strain and invisible shoulder-weights almost always leads to body manifestations. We are no stranger to that sense of being overwhelmed, anxious, irritable, withdrawn and lackadaisical, these are so familiar. But they have real, (almost tangible) accompaniments –which are also well-documented, such as depression, panic attacks, exhaustion, high blood pressure, skin eruptions or rashes, insomnia, low libido, migraine, gastrointestinal difficulties (reflux disease, ulcers of the gastrointestinal tract, cancers), upper and lower respiratory disease, even ear problems, Gynecological problems and immune suppression.
There are about 6 global stress ‘zones’ in everyone’ life as noted above. We often don’t acknowledge the roles relationships such as family, marital, friendly, as well as phobias have in pushing us up the stress scale. Most of us complain about job and relationship stress, to the exclusion of the others.
Yet stress comes in so many ‘normal guises’, some of the most apparently harmless occurrences in life are accompanied by stress. The Social Readjustment Rating Scale or Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale was formulated as a result of this discovery.
By means of it ‘everyday’ occurrence such as change of house, change in frequency of arguments, marital reconciliation were found to add to one’s stress levels – with resulting dangers to health.
Of course everyone knows that the death of a spouse causes stress, and divorce, as does foreclosure but it is the cumulative effect of these, large and small things, that result in life-threatening physical disorders. It’s been found that if the addition of these factors (each of which has a numerical value) totals 300 or more then serious deleterious body effects result.
The generic effects of stress affects 3 parts of our being:
Our life-and-death duty is to make very sure our stress levels remain as little as we can make them.
© Thabo Seseane.2013.
What is Fulfillment in life?